Long distance relationships are hard. Not only do they take a lot of effort to maintain, but they also cost a lot! Probably a hundred times more expensive than traditional relationships, speaking from experience.
Sometimes, however, couples need to be apart at one point in their relationship. That is why while many people claim that long distance relationships can never work, I am going to list in this blog a few reasons why I think they are beneficial to every relationship.
Everything I’ve written in this blog is based on my personal experience and perspective. All claims are personally true and genuine.
1. You will learn how to get to know the other person more without physically being together.
Unlike traditional relationships, where one party can easily be distracted, in long distance relationships you have no choice but to talk. It’s like going on a first date everyday. You learn more about your partner on a deeper level because all you can do is talk and talk and do a whole lot of talking without touching. You will find yourself falling in love with their personality more than other parts of them.
The argument that actual interpersonal communication is always better than computer-mediated communication still holds true. However, we now have video calls that minimize that communication gap. My boyfriend and I spend most of our days just chilling on video call. It’s so easy to sense if there’s anything wrong with the change of his tone, contrary to popular belief that “you don’t know how they actually feel.” That only applies to texting!
2. Long Distance Relationships also teach you a lot of things about yourself.
When I first entered my long distance relationship, I thought I had it all figured out. I was like, meh, this is going to be easy. I was wrong. Long distance relationships are hard af, and it’s going to push all your buttons, even the ones you never knew existed! It’s crazy. But all you gotta do is find someone who’s as crazy as you and is up for the long distance roller coaster ride.
Whenever it gets hard, I keep repeating this quote to my boyfriend:
“Distance is not a problem; just an inconvenience.”
3. Long distance relationships require more effort, which increases the relationships’ value.
Truthfully, the way two people treat each other is the main basis of the relationship’s value. But if two people are both putting effort into something they both believe in – into something they both know will work – chances are, they are valuing the relationship more than any other couple do theirs.
It’s like painting a masterpiece. The harder the artist works on the painting, the more he thinks about what he’s painting, and the more he visualizes the end result of his masterpiece, the more beautiful it will become. It can be overdone, but a good artist knows how to maneuver a mistake, just like how team working, long distance couples move on from an argument.
Now I’m not saying couples who are closer to each other are inferior to those couples apart. But it takes a strong willpower to hold on to something you can’t even physically hold on to. LDR couples deserve some credit!
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4. Long Distance Relationships test your patience!
Whether it’s a crappy internet connection, or a delayed delivery of your care package, or even an unsent message that caused arguments, long distance relationships will surely test your patience like it was never tested before.
Last month, I celebrated my 23rd birthday (I also got my Hogwarts acceptance letter to celebrate it with!!!!!). It was the first time I had celebrated my birthday since I got with my long distance boyfriend. Luckily, I was on my holidays in the Philippines so it was easy for him to send me gifts!
We had a bad experience during Valentine’s when he got me flowers from a sketchy site here in Saudi. I loved the flowers because they were from him, but he didn’t like it! Lad got pissed!
Now his birthday is coming up soon. It’s my turn to get my patience tested!
5. If your significant other from overseas doesn’t speak your language, you will eventually learn theirs!
Let’s face the facts. Knowing another language makes you smarter. That’s scientifically proven! So if your significant other from thousands of miles away speaks another language other than yours, then congratulations! You have another opportunity to exercise that brain.
My boyfriend is from North East England, and he’s a Geordie. Everyone in the U.K. admits that the Geordie accent is the hardest accent to understand. I have to admit that our first few weeks was a struggle! Even if I had good command in the English language, it was still a challenge to speak to a native.
Months and months later, there is only little effort exerted on my end when we talk. He’s doing all the effort in learning Filipino now! Oh, how the tables have turned.
Long Distance Relationships Goals
At the end of the day, all couples in a long distance relationship will have one similar goal: to close the gap. So whether or not you have learned the stuff above while you’re apart, you will still be able to learn more about each other plus more random things when the distance isn’t inconveniencing you both anymore.
Indeed, being in a relationship in general is a learning process, and having the opportunity to learn and grabbing it at once is a huge advantage and a step to self-betterment.
So LDR couples, I’ve said it above, and I’ll say it again:
“Distance is not a problem; just an inconvenience.”
As bonus, I would like to introduce my boyfriend, Mark Ferry! He proofreads my blogs from time to time and checks if there’s any mistake, so you could say that I have my own proofreader.
I would put a photo of him here but he’s a very private person. So I’m just gonna put our baby photo collage!
If you’re in a long distance relationship, tell me what else you have learned in the comments below!
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